Several weeks ago I addressed the fact that one of the reasons so many people who embark into sales, network marketing or even a personal negotiation fail is because they lose the battle for their own mind. Many times that battle is fought in the throes of confusion, adversity, chaos or doubt. It is at those times -- when things seem the most bleak, hopeless or frustrating -- that you have the opportunity to truly grow!
I mention this because many people get 80-90% of the way to success and fall short because they do not trust the true learning process. They avoid mistakes or look to be saved. There is chaos and confusion just before there is clarity and order. Nature works this way.
You may have been conditioned by the "system" to rely on answers from someone else. There are two problems with that: First, it robs you of true learning and resourcefulness. Second, anyone else's comments are "advice" which is usually too late, biased to their perspective and non-invested in your situation.
True learning happens when you fail, find the mistake, learn from it and correct. Here is a checklist to ensure that you grow and learn the fastest:
- Surround yourself with those who will always give you honest and quick feedback and who will tell you the truth, even if it stings a little. These are truly your friends.
- Never deny, hide or lie about making a mistake. If you do not admit to them, you can never correct them. The biggest failed battle in your brain is when you continue to lie to yourself about you. Admit them quick!
- Take it easy on yourself. Do not blow it off, but also do not consider yourself stupid or slow. You have actually joined a very prestigious fraternity of winners who have failed before you. Even be willing to brag about your mistake, especially if it is a big one!
- If and when you DO seek support, find a mentor who forces you to discover the truth and who coaches you to learning.
I know that it is easier said than done but the best way to become good at handling mistakes, is to set yourself up to make lots of them by continuing to push your envelope. After a while you will get used to it and things that were tough will become easy.
The late Dr. R. Buckminster Fuller said it best, "Mistakes are only sins when NOT admitted." 'It is when human beings actually realize and admit that they have made a mistake that they are the closest to that "mysterious integrity" that governs the universe."
In this New Year... be thankful for your families, your health, your friends and your opportunities. Also be thankful for the part of you that rebounds, corrects and always seeks the truth.